Soapbox: The "Look at Me" Mistake

"Look at me, look at me! Hey, over here. Right here! Yoo-hoo. Look. At. Me. NOW!"

You all remember that kid from the playground. The one who always felt the need to be the center of attention, even if she wasn't relevant to the conversation. And of course you recall what happened next -- you and your friends tried even harder to ignore her.

I always cringe when the same occurs in the public relations profession, with the same predictable results. It's an agency overloading the room when meeting with their advertising and marketing counterparts. A corporate PR manager trying to "own" all aspects of social media without realizing it's a shared responsibility. Industry spokespeople trying to somehow prove PR's worth by trumpeting new studies, such as this post by PRSA CEO Rosanna Fiske.

Having practiced public relations for nearly two decades, I'm proud of the profession. I love what I do. The results that my teams and I have produced have made a measurable difference for dozens of clients, companies and causes around the world. What could be better than that?

The problem lies not in that pride, but believing that telling is better than showing. When choosing sides for a playground soccer game, no one wants to listen to the kid over on the swings waving his arms for attention. They gravitate toward the kid who can bring her skills onto the field, score a few goals, and share her secret stash of candy with teammates afterward.

In the corporate setting, business leaders don't want to hear their executives go on-and-on about their functional prowess. You don't hear colleagues in finance talking about why they're needed. You don't hear the head of human resources trying to push a new SHRM study detailing HR's value into the hands of the CEO. "But they've already made it onto the radar," you say.

News flash -- so has communications and PR in many organizations around the globe. How? Not by talking about the function, but by proving its business value. By showing outcomes that are tied directly to business outcomes. By making a visible difference in how the company conducts itself.

Talk is cheap. For a profession in which talk plays such a large role, that's a lesson that's too often overlooked.